Mr. and Mrs. Controversy

The person who thrives on controversy will find trouble wherever he or she goes. It doesn’t matter where they’re at or who they’re with, they’ll find a reason to stir and agitate to the point that a wake of victims lie in their path. And perhaps there are times where their concerns are genuine and need to be addressed – but they generally carry a hammer where a wet sponge would do the job.

This is the person that uses God’s Word as a tool to constantly find fault in others. It’s the person who sees another’s desire to serve God, but finds one piece in the puzzle that doesn’t fit to their liking and hyper focuses on that. It’s their method of ‘helping’ others look just and right (from the outside, of course) before God.

The person who thrives on controversy sees themselves as being able to ‘discern’ the problems of other people, but they often can’t discern their own issues. They may have a hard time discerning what's of God and what's coming from their own emotions and strongholds, so all of their words and actions are self-labeled as 'just.'

Tragically, this kind of person draws individuals who are in need of a strong motherly or fatherly figure, ‘trains’ them in their methods, and they begin to see the world through the same eyes as Mr. or Mrs. Controversy.

But we are not held captive by this type of thought. We are those who discern God’s ways and will, and progress in this walk of sanctification. So don’t take offense at Mr. or Mrs. Controversy – seek God’s input and pray! Stay away from those that constantly stir up strife; live a quiet and peaceful life in serving God.

“But refuse (shut your mind against, have nothing to do with) … (ill-informed, unedifying…) controversies over ignorant questionings, for you know that they foster strife and breed quarrels.
And the servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome (fighting and contending). Instead, he must be kindly to everyone and mild-tempered [preserving the bond of peace]; he must be a skilled and suitable teacher, patient and forbearing and willing to suffer wrong.
He must correct his opponents with courtesy and gentleness, in the hope that God may grant that they will repent and come to know the Truth … and that they may come to their senses [and] escape out of the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him, [henceforth] to do His [God's] will." (2 Timothy 2:23-26)